ok, s0 me and my babydaddy or should i say "BOYFRIEND" have been together for 4 years, and he prop0sed to me in 2006 and we were d0 to get married earlier this summer. Did we??? N0000.... ok he is 11 years older than me im 2? and he is ?2. N0w for me to be so much younger than him it seems as if I am m0re ready than he is,he ch0oses friends over me and baby and we dont go anywhere or do anything...but I l0ve him so much and I really want this to work for us and our child. I need s0me advice
Men do this sort of thing. They go on and on "dating". Then they break up with you (because of course, it's not YOU, it's THEM; they "need a break", yadaya). About two days later they're married - to somebody else.
I'm curious - what makes you think you think you can live with a man, have his children, do all the wifey things for 4 years and he'll want to marry you later? Why should he?
Being in a relationship that is already full of uncertainty is doomed to fail. Take time apart to discover who you are and if you are in fact in love with this man. Just because you have a child together does not mean that you have to get married. Be wise and guard your heart and most importantly guard your children and do what is best for them...They see the worried look that this situation has brought to you and it is not good for them.. Take a break and enjoy your kids! Forget the Daddy for a while and see what happens. I promise you will be thrilled that you did!
" If you shut up truth and bury it under the ground, it will but grow, and gather to itself such explosive power that the day it bursts through it will blow up everything in its way."
EMILE ZOLA
Posts: 292 | Location: Bama Country | Registered: 25 March 2007
Get a copy of the Five Love Languages book by Gary Chapman and dump this guy. You are too young to be trapped in a relationship with an older selfish man. You do not even have a decent relationship with him, so why worry, the next stepping stone should be better if you pick the right guy but if you pick another bum then you will be right back where you are now. Your young enjoy life but meet the right guy who will love you and I mean really love you.
love is blind. but most of you women say i want a man who is nice and sweet and cares for me all the way. but you stay with a man who is a quote unquote bad boy or outlaw. so in the end you are stupid and love is blind and nice guys finish last.
Love IS blind, and incredibly stupid. Listen to your brain. Not your heart.
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If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land. 2 Chronicles 7:14
Posts: 59 | Location: Franklin Co. | Registered: 12 November 2007
