For those of you that are not with your true love..........
Have you met them? If you have and you lost them, how long did it take to not hurt inside?
I was with the father of my children for 7 yrs. Met him as a teen. Didnt want to date anyone after that. But, eight months later I met the guy I just broke up with. We were together 5 yrs. We have been broken up for 3 months and I still think about him all the time. That didnt even happen with the father of my children!... So what do you think. What are some good ways go get on with life and leave the past in the past?.......oh yeah, the kicker is we work together........in the place we both plan to retire.............In another 25 yrs.................LOL
How can you get over him and see him all the time? Absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder, it makes the heart forget. But if there is no absence....
Originally posted by vick13: How can you get over him and see him all the time? Absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder, it makes the heart forget. But if there is no absence....
Thats what I am worried about. Thing is we also still agreed to remain friends. We were best of friends. So there is still talking on the phone, emailing etc. We are on diff shifts, but still see each other and I want to be comfortable with that. Its just hard.
There is no getting over a true love. I met my first true love while I was in high school in the 60's; however, we separated and went our separate ways...not my idea..but I wanted him to be happy. Then, I met my second true love when in my twenties. However, both of us were married. All four of us were best friends. I respected his marriage and he respected mine. My husband died twenty some odd years ago. Then his wife died just 7 years ago. We eventually got together and were together 6 years when he died of lung cancer a little over a year ago. Then, out of nowhere, my first true love from high school contacted me. We have kept in touch via email and phone calls. Now he has been diagnosed with stomach cancer. I am devasted again. I know that I will NEVER get over either of them. However, I have asked the good Lord to help me for I know that I can not do it by myself. So, one has to ask for help and live day by day. The only way one could ever get over a true love is to have that part of the brain which contains that memory to be taken out and that is impossible.
Originally posted by knot_ur_naybor: There is no getting over a true love. I met my first true love while I was in high school in the 60's; however, we separated and went our separate ways...not my idea..but I wanted him to be happy. Then, I met my second true love when in my twenties. However, both of us were married. All four of us were best friends. I respected his marriage and he respected mine. My husband died twenty some odd years ago. Then his wife died just 7 years ago. We eventually got together and were together 6 years when he died of lung cancer a little over a year ago. Then, out of nowhere, my first true love from high school contacted me. We have kept in touch via email and phone calls. Now he has been diagnosed with stomach cancer. I am devasted again. I know that I will NEVER get over either of them. However, I have asked the good Lord to help me for I know that I can not do it by myself. So, one has to ask for help and live day by day. The only way one could ever get over a true love is to have that part of the brain which contains that memory to be taken out and that is impossible.
Listening to yours and Vicks stories has really touched me. He is happy, healthy and still a part of my life so I suppose I can thank the good Lord for that blessing. I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
Listening to yours and Vicks stories has really touched me. He is happy, healthy and still a part of my life so I suppose I can thank the good Lord for that blessing. I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
pros and cons to both sides.....having him gone for good hurts, but so does seeing him but not being with him.
I met a true love in '87 and we were also dear and best friends...but the situation wasn't right for us to be together. I married in '88, but loving friend and i stayed in touch by phone until his death in '99. He still stays in touch no phone needed.
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It is hard getting over someone that you love. My true love passed away over the summer and it is still hard to cope. I spent 15 years moving forward, but still have those days. Just take one step at a time. Love your kids and enjoy them. Treasure the time you had with HIM and when you are least exptecting it love will happen.
" If you shut up truth and bury it under the ground, it will but grow, and gather to itself such explosive power that the day it bursts through it will blow up everything in its way."
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Whose idea was the break-up? If it was his, not much you can do. Sadly, You can't make someone love you enough to be with you forever. I wish I had a cure for a broken heart but there's not one. Sometimes it helps if you have a close friend that is there whenever you need a shoulder.
Originally posted by Taciturn: Whose idea was the break-up? If it was his, not much you can do. Sadly, You can't make someone love you enough to be with you forever. I wish I had a cure for a broken heart but there's not one. Sometimes it helps if you have a close friend that is there whenever you need a shoulder.
His idea. I am not trying to get back with him, I dont want anyone to be somewhere they dont want to me........thats just not me.
I have lots of friends for support, only problem is most of them including family think they are helping by setting me up with someone. Even some of my guy friends have all of a sudden decided we need to try dating????
I am just not there yet. I dont wanna date anyone. I am not depressed or anything me and the kids enjoy life just like always. I just dont see myself with anyone else. A guy I dated a long long time ago that I have been friends with said well, just move to St. Louis and lets get married!!....I havent spoke to him since. I just need impartial ears to listen, not anyone to fix it. Thats where you all come in.....LOL..........Thanks
Sometimes you don't ever get over your true love. Here's a wonderful story...my parents met after my Dads first year in college. They fell in love, married and had four children, but life happened and after some sorrowful times they divorced after 23 years. He remarried, she never even dated again. Fast forward 20 years. She has just been diagnosed with ovarian cancer, he is devastated by the news to the dismay of wife number two ( who was a gold digger anyway). Then he is diagnosed with Parkinsons disease which devastates my mother. Wife number two decides she isn't interested in being a caregiver so she serves him with divorce papers. Mom and Dad knew they were both terminally ill and were so thankful to have a chance to spend their last years of their lives together, and they remarried in 2004. She died in January 2006 and he just died in June. She developed a metastatic brain tumor and after radiation lost most of her hearing and he was losing control of his vocal cords, so there at the end they couldn't really talk to each other, but they would just sit and hold hands, her head on his shoulder. They were buried together in June, her ashes with him in his casket.
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Originally posted by SaltyDog: Sometimes you don't ever get over your true love. Here's a wonderful story...my parents met after my Dads first year in college. They fell in love, married and had four children, but life happened and after some sorrowful times they divorced after 23 years. He remarried, she never even dated again. Fast forward 20 years. She has just been diagnosed with ovarian cancer, he is devastated by the news to the dismay of wife number two ( who was a gold digger anyway). Then he is diagnosed with Parkinsons disease which devastates my mother. Wife number two decides she isn't interested in being a caregiver so she serves him with divorce papers. Mom and Dad knew they were both terminally ill and were so thankful to have a chance to spend their last years of their lives together, and they remarried in 2004. She died in January 2006 and he just died in June. She developed a metastatic brain tumor and after radiation lost most of her hearing and he was losing control of his vocal cords, so there at the end they couldn't really talk to each other, but they would just sit and hold hands, her head on his shoulder. They were buried together in June, her ashes with him in his casket.
Thank you so much for sharing your story!....Salty that is what I really want. My parents have been together for 33 yrs. My mom had to move to Indiana with her family when she was in the 11th grade. My dad sold his favorite horse to bring her home. My grandparetns also married 55+ yrs.
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no phone needed.
